Lower my expectations or raise my standards?

Have you ever expected someone to do something and it didn't happen?

This was a common sense thing that should have happened.  To protect THEIR privacy, I won't name names or spell out the specific situation because then it would be OBVIOUS although there's part of me that would LOVE to because what they did was rude, inconsiderate and hurtful.

It happens in every other situation.  It happened for other people in the same situation around me and from the people around me.  It didn't happen for me.  I knew for a LONG time before this situation that I was a misfit around this group of people.  This situation finalized it for me.

This was really only a MINOR situation although still hurtful, it was really nothing!  I've been through much tougher situations and lost a lot more than being around this dysfunctional little group of people.

It's hard to let go when I've been intentionally hurt.  But, life is great and they were only a nuisance when I was around them and they are nothing more than a bad memory now.

Sometimes, as difficult as it is, we have to decide on doing what is best for us even when that means we have to make some really tough decisions, even when it means we are no longer around people that are damaging to us.


So, as far as them not doing something that is done for everyone else in my situation ... it's their loss.  I had to decide if I was going to lower my expectations or raise my standards.

I decided to raise my standards!